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Bea Frank is a 53-year-old first time grandma. She and her husband live in Southampton, New York, where they are currently collaborating on a screenplay, building a Web site and Skyping with their new grandchild. Frank also teaches spinning in her spare time and hopes to stay fit for more grandchildren, endless fun and maybe even a dog.

One for Your Mother

Sun Aug 01 2010

I am a grandma going through Menopause and don't want to give in to it. I just want to go through it.

As a little chin hair appears, the stomach is protruding out and I am sweating despite air conditioning, I look in the mirror and repeat my mantra: “Don't let it get you. You are spirited grandma, and menopause is just a phase. Go through it with ease, embrace it.” Ommmmmm.

Then I turn around and say, “Time for a new day; rock on granny.” The truth is, I don't think it's that simple. I do believe this stage should not be emotionally painful. But it can sometimes be for Bea, and that would be me. Insomnia hits me every now and then. When it does, I embrace it and write my blogs.

I visited with Molly and my daughter yesterday. In the middle of my visit, I became tearful. I was thinking, “Darn! Menopause, I get so emotional.” Then I proceeded to play with my granddaughter, who told me she was out of tea today so she would make me coffee. The little creative mind of a 2 year old. What a gift. In route back to Southampton, I was considered how lucky I am to be able to share days like this with my daughter and Molly. I started crying again. Darn, Menopause!

It struck me as funny at 3am, when I was blogging, that I never talk about the M word with anyone, including my daughter. Why is M such a secret? Then I thought what does it mean? No more babies, no more menstruation, I am entering the last stage of my life, older adulthood, and maybe I need to rethink me. Guess what happens next? Yup, tears again with some night sweats. I looked down at my prego-looking body and said, “Thank goodness I found the MBA Program.” Support is something every woman should accept, no matter what stage of life she is in. You could be a soon-to-be mom, a new mom, a single mom, divorced or a grandma going through menopause. I recently started writing a blog for the MBA Program on Facebook. Check it out at www.thembaprogram.com. Please, feel free to give me your feedback on the new blog and venture.

Have a blessed day, Ommmmmmmmmmm. I need to go change my nightgown and maybe even fall asleep.

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